Published in An Injustice!·PinnedBlack Babies Cost Less to AdoptWe were two months into our search for a baby when a friend of a friend told us how she and her husband had found their daughter a few years before. …Adoption5 min read
Published in An Injustice!·May 4, 2021Hate Asians? You’re Really Gonna Hate Dying.When I see racially motivated hate crimes on the news — like the recent spa shooting in Atlanta — I fast forward the life of the murderer in my head — Mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer in May of 2020. …Asian American6 min read
Apr 6, 2021A book excerpt from BIRTH MOMS AREN’T SAINTS AND I’M NO SAVIOR: An Adoptive Mom’s Journey Through the ‘Not for Social Media’ Side of Adoption.Growing up, describing the time before they brought me home, Mom had said things like, “A couple took care of you for us.” I imagined myself in a wooden cradle somewhere, with a satin-ribboned sign at the foot that read: “Going to Darrell & Virginia Skaggs.” I knew I’d been…15 min read
Jul 31, 2020We’re a Mask-wearing, Quarantining Family; We Vacationed in Zion National Park, and You Can TooLike many of you, we canceled our summer vacation, one that would’ve required getting on an airplane, back in April, when it became clear that quarantine wasn’t ending any time soon. In May, after two months of not leaving the house other than for grocery shopping (and sanitizing those groceries…Coronavirus6 min read
May 5, 2020As an Adoptee, I Knew My Son Needed These 5 Things From His Birth MomI was adopted via closed adoption in 1972, and forty years later, my husband and I adopted our son via open adoption. While I would search for, and find, my own biological mom shortly after bringing our son home, I grew up knowing nothing of why I was placed for…Adoption5 min read